Sex Therapy Basics

Frequent Sex Therapy Concerns: I just don't have much of a sex drive, I never have.  What can I do? I feel broken.  Will I need medication? My partner wants more (or less) sex than I do.  Is there hope for us? I feel he (she) is not attracted to [...]

Confidence and Insecurity

Returning to school and taking on the grind of academics, athletics and other pressures may arouse excitement as well as anxieties about how the year will go.  You may be imagining how successful will you be, and will you do as well as you hope.  Optimism is part of starting [...]


A ten-month old baby has passion and goes after what she wants.  She will give it her all to pull herself up to a stand.  He will scream loudly for more crackers.  She will laugh without hesitation, over and over, at a silly face.  A ten-month old baby does not [...]

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Are we becoming numb to random violence?

With the frequency of mass shootings in the country, especially the frequency of those occurring recently, is this our new normal? What are the implications if this is true? Is this our new normal? In some respects this is our new normal.  Just as anything that happens with great frequency, [...]

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Is Therapy Worth It?

When someone decides to call a psychologist it is usually after many months of internal debate.  Something has to tip the scales to reach out to a stranger for help.  Something inside the person has to build up to overcome two important ready-made obstacles: the financial investment and the stigma. [...]

Doctor, Can You Fix My Mother?

It could be almost any work day for me.  It happened again today. A patient wants me to fix his or her wife/husband/boss/mother/father/neighbor/co-worker/child.  I tell them if I could do that, I would win the Nobel Peace prize and retire a gazillionaire! This phenomenon is so common as to be [...]

Are You a Perfectionist?

“I have a hard time trusting.”  “I got burned once; never again!”  “I’ve put up a wall so people can’t hurt me.”   “I do all the work in my relationship.”  “My husband/wife needs therapy!” These are statements made by someone who is a perfectionist.  How do I know?  Read the [...]

Why We Feel More Vulnerable After a Tragedy

Tragedy first brings us together.  Later it risks pulling us apart. In her NPR piece reporter Alix Spiegel talked to social psychology professor Jeff Greenberg at the University of Arizona about his research on our conscious and unconscious reactions to large-scale trauma.  He noted there are immediate and delayed responses to [...]

Depression, A Chemical Imbalance?

How did it happen that my patient chose to remain stuck in an unfulfilled, psychically dulling and isolated life?  He is depressed.  No surprise.  The medical collective and even many in the mental health field might immediately blame a “chemical imbalance” in his brain. Let me offer another way of [...]

By |6:23 pm|Depression, Medication, Self Care|0 Comments

What is Your Normal?

Is there a typical childhood?  While there are typical childhood experiences, there are infinite variations in human experience.  A child is born, learns to crawl, then walk, then play and so on.  Every, single thing is a learning experience for a long, long time.  Mom and dad do typical mom [...]

By |4:35 pm|Parents, Relationships, Self Care|0 Comments